In all your speeches, you must let the true "you" appear… Easy to say. Yet many of us, speaking, seek to "create a role". We try to assert a style that is not really ours but that of our models. A style sometimes "cool", sometimes "intellectual", or "rebellious", according to the people we admire.
More often than not, we try to hold the "good speaker"… We exaggerate the way we do, move, declaim, distort our voices without making it more powerful, we take a more or less voluntarily focus… The result is often a huge mess. To play a role, whatever it may be, is a mistake: because it takes away our most precious asset: our authenticity!
Whatever the context, always let a part of you appear. It is a pre-requisite for you to be given more confidence. Here's how to do it in 3 points:
1. Claim your origins, honor your Roots
Be the person you have always been, you are the product of your past life. Do not leave it entirely behind you in which case you will lose contact with an important part of you. Honoring your roots it is not necessarily a reminder to everyone that you are the son of your famous father or that your parents are immigrants. To honor its roots is to say in the facts what you have experienced, and why it has influenced you.
2. Assume and share your values and beliefs
The most important thing is not to be appreciated but to be true, in agreement with what you are. Sharing your values is an effective way to build a bridge. Do you prefer a leader who says what others want to hear, or a leader who has the courage to talk about his true beliefs? This is true in both business and politics. Express your values. Act according to them.
What is authentic is what you really believe. For this to work, you become enthusiastic when you talk about it. It's not just the idea but the emotion behind the idea that will make you a sincere person. An audience recognizes a person who is talking about a belief in which they believe. From time to time, take the pen and write down the things that really matter to you (I advise on this topic the excellent book become what you Are, by Nicolas Proupain). What you believe is the core of your personality, when you allow others to see it, you win friends and trust. Sharing your beliefs is one of the most authentic things.
3. Talk about your business challenges, your difficulties, your successes
A way to look sincere to your audience is to tell them in detail the lessons you learned from the obstacles you encountered. When you talk, the audience wants you to inspire them, they want to know the practical truth and how to interpret it.
However, do not play the great scientists. Don't pretend you understand everything better than everyone else. Do not put yourself in the shoes of the little teacher self-satisfied and prescriber. A little naivety is essential. Say what you think, express your opinions without politically correct or overplayed word. Authenticity is truth and truth requires naivety. Do not avoid it. be naïve, but do not be candid…
One last tip…
Have fun! Having fun is one of the best ways to get a connection with your audience! This will attract others in your life, give energy and you receive in return. You will create important relationships by honoring your personality and singularity, sharing it with others. Do not be afraid to lose a little of your splendor, you gain in confidence, in respect and in authenticity.