Life is long. For some people life is short, too short, but for the vast majority of living dead who roam on this little planet that is Earth, life is far too long… A simple day may seem like an eternity when you experience your condition, when you feel that you have no grip on the elements that come right into your mouth. You feel bad, you feel like a piece of crap, to be a good booger to be crushed on the sidewalk, trampled by passersby who do not even notice us.
Have you ever had that feeling of being a piece of crap? To be a booger? To be a sick pigeon's Chiu? Certainly because it happens to everyone, especially to those who do everything to make you believe that it does not happen to them… In this case it is necessary to do a job beforehand: to ask the right questions. I suggest that you meditate deeply on the following questions:
-What do I want in life?
-What are my thoughts on life?
-What are my own ideas and values?
-Do I wear them proudly or do I let them go to the second level?
You don't know how to answer these questions? Not easy, indeed… Here are some principles to be applied to lead the life that one desires:
Make a list in your habits
Make a list of your habits, and ask yourself if they serve you or serve you. In the long run, what are they going to train? Do you want to have new ones, replacing some that you have (eg: read an hour a day instead of watching TV)? List it all, and take action.
The importance of Passions
Have passions, and claim them! Take time for yourselves, take care of yourself, share them! As Luchini would say: "There are people who ask us for salt, and we don't understand what they want, and there are people who talk to us about Spinoza and we understand everything." As soon as you are passionate, it will feel, and you will train others with you in your passion. Even better, make your passion your job! You will have a good reason to get up in the morning, and you will have energy to spare.
There are men who think that women treat themselves as if they are on a pedestal. So they do not dare to approach them, hate them in secret, feel bad, and remain frustrated… The opposite for women is equally true, unfortunately: these women who think that all men are pigs, stalkers, who see in the slightest approach or the slightest compliment a kind of sexist and sexual aggression, and who live as Fools for too much of their lives… This is the typical example of a limiting belief: to force yourself to not see farther than the tip of his nose. Of course, it is important to have your beliefs but you also have to be curious and adapt your behaviour. If you are told that in such a way, it works, and that this is supported and relayed by many specialists in the field, it is pointless to insist on believing that this is not the right way for you. It's up to you to change, not the other way around!
1. Set goals
Think about setting goals. A dozen long-term (+ 2 years) and as much as you want in the short and medium term. Know how to be reasonable anyway!
2. The energy
When you say hello to someone, you prefer to shake a hand spineless, or a free hand? Well this principle applies to everything. Being energetic is important. Compared to others, it proves that you are someone who loves his life, and in relation to you, energy is "Automotivatrice". How do I get it? By a good hygiene of life: A good sleep, a good diet… A little trick: you have no more energy? Force yourself to smile, it will come to you alone!
3. Get out of your comfort zone
One of the principles found in NLP: the comfort zone. The comfort zone is comfortable as a bed… of death. Come out, force yourself to meet people that normally you would never have met, talk to strangers, anyone, develop your "social muscle", go to places that you are not used to frequent, never refuse a Invitation to go out (if in lack of energy, even tips at the top, at worst there are energy drinks I recall)… You do not have time for any regrets. The game can stop at any time.
4. Be well surrounded
Do the sorting in your dating. For example, do not see any "exs" to you if you still feel something and it doesn't. And conversely, don't see any exs in you if you know she's feeling something and you're not. The friends you call all the time to go out and who never calls you back, forget them definitively. People who are in contradiction with your principles or who do not follow theirs, Zap! People who spend their time complaining, put them aside, we all have problems. Surround yourself with sane people who will pull you up.
5. From extrinsic to intrinsic
Think that every element you put in place, that you force yourself to accomplish will eventually become an integral part of your personality. For example, at first you force yourself to follow your principles or talk to one person a day. Eventually, you will follow them naturally, for your well-being, and you will talk to people on the street without realizing it, thus gaining unthinkable social proof some time ago. In addition, when the stranger will be a very pretty brunette, you will have training, it will be natural and you will not pass for the big heavy…
This teaching is valid for all areas of your life. Change your inner game, and you will change the look that the world carries on you. You will become a balanced person. Which is rare these days.