The great Art of small talk… It is the title of the Book of Debra Fine, which deals with Small talking, a practice still little known in France but experiencing great success in America.
What is Small talking? In reality this is what we practice every day, every time we meet someone, the family, a friend, a neighbor, a trader or a doctor, or even people that we do not know… The small talking is the daily discussion, social chatter, the art of finding the right word at the right time, the little phrase that flies, engaging conversations with anyone, and leaving a good impression…
This has all happened to us at least once: on the occasion of a cocktail or an evening for example. You come in like that, you don't know a lot of people, or anyone, only the person who organizes, you get a drink and… we're waiting. We're doing tapestry. There's a world that moves, who chats, laughs, small groups here and there, and we are embarrassed, we stay in his corner, the very idea of approaching someone at random or "banging the Incrust" in a group makes us tremble. So we look for an apology, we say that it is really a night "fart fart", that people are lame, uninteresting, that it is them who do not know how to do it…
Take responsibility! All the times you got pissed at a party, where you wanted to go, well, I'm telling you, it was your fault. You can't blame others for being as shy and clumsy as you are. It's up to you to change things, starting with changing yourselves: Learn to connect with anyone, in any circumstance, become at last comfortable and enjoy all these evenings and events! You will expand your network, you will make fabulous encounters, that can help you professionally, or you will meet new friends, you will more easily seduce the people you want, you décuplerez your power of seduction and you Enjoy!
Have you ever dreamed of reviving a conversation that goes out? To avoid silence? To introduce new Exchange topics? Feel more comfortable in parties and receptions? To develop cordial professional relations… and effective? And, above all, to leave a good first impression?
You will discover many very useful little tricks in this book. Here for example some of the best "icebreakers" of common use (about fifty in all, not to mention the icebreakers "Company"!):
1-What do you think of this movie/this restaurant/this evening?
2-tell me about the most beautiful vacation you've ever had.
3-What is your favorite occupation on rainy days?
4-If you relive a moment in your life, which one would you choose?
5-which particular object would you really like to own? What for?
6-Tell me about your favorite parents.
7-How did you live in the city where you grew up?
8-How would you like to reincarnate?
9-What is the ideal age for you?
… In short, these first examples are basic, but you have understood the principle of this manual of Small talking: many and varied ideas to start discussions, learn more about your interlocutors and share with them emotions.
Make no mistake: "Light" conversations are sometimes the most difficult and the heaviest of consequences! It is a full-fledged art that is not given to everyone. And as in any art form, there is no secret: work, practice, practice. In other words: Take the lightness seriously!